Self Discipline
By Robin S. Sharma
Study anyone who has achieved a measure of greatness,
from the CEOs and entrepreneurs who have built wildly successful
businesses to the best mothers, fathers, teachers and poets and
you will be studying discipline in motion. Discipline is
the cornerstone of self-mastery. The ancient Eastern book of wisdom,
the Bhagavad-Gita says: "without discipline he has no understanding
of inner-power; without inner-power, he has no peace; and without
peace, where is joy?
Self- discipline is a fundamental virtue to inner-power.
Discipline is the source, the wellspring that lets you live the
life that you deserve. You must strengthen your inner core
if you are truly dedicated to manifesting your highest potential
for personal and professional success. With discipline,
you will possess the inner fire needed to focus on your primary
goals and realize your dreams.
The Real Secret of Discipline
I define discipline as the virtue that gives you
the courage and the inner resolve to do what you said you would
do - when you said you would do it. Discipline is all about
promise keeping. I am not talking only about those promises
you have made to others such as your promise to your child to
take her to the zoo this weekend or your promise to your partner
that you will become a better listener, for example. I am
also talking about the promises that you make to yourself; those
small daily resolutions ranging from the promise to read thirty
minutes a day to a personal commitment you have made to raise
the standards of your work at the office.
Discipline means that you take time away from the
little emergencies which seem to eat up your day to kindle the
fire of self-mastery. Discipline means that you get up early
to go for a run on a freezing winter's day because you made this
one of your personal mastery milestones and you are dedicated
to raising the level of your physical fitness. Discipline
means that you refuse an invitation to go out to a party on Saturday
night because you had planned to review your goals and refine
your purpose statement and think deeply about where your personal,
professional and spiritual life is going. Discipline is
having the power to turn off the T.V. and go into your study to
read some of those books that you know will truly improve your
effectiveness. Discipline is having the bravery and the
inner-strength to stop giving so much time to the unimportant
things in your life and to start directing your energy to those
high-impact activities which will truly make a measurable difference
in the richness of your life.
Integrating the habit of discipline into your days
takes effort, willpower and courage. Having the discipline
to follow through on the life goals you have set for yourself
and living the kind of life you have imagined in your mind's eye
is a very brave way to live. It is a very noble way to live.
It is also a very liberating way to live because you have become
the master of your own life. You begin to take control of
your destiny. It's the source of great enlightenment.
You set your course and then you have the resolve to follow it.
And this also leads to tremendous amounts of confidence because
you realize that you alone are the influencer of your life and
if you don't like what you see, you can change it. You shape
your circumstances rather than letting them shape you. You
become the master of your life rather than letting life master
you.
Building Discipline
How do you build self-discipline? The principle
can be stated in nine words: put off short term gratification
for long term satisfaction. You build discipline by sacrificing
what is easy to do for what is right to do.When you put off doing
what is impulsive, those things that simply feel good in the moment
but offer no long-term benefits and start doing what your heart
tells you is good, you start to build discipline. When you
do the things you don't like to do but know you should do, you
build discipline. This is the seed of greatness. As H.P.
Liddon noted sagely: "What we do upon some great occasion
will probably depend on what we already are; and what we already
are will be the result of previous years of self-discipline."
The top performers on the playing fields of business
and life continuously raise their standards. They realize
they are bound for glory and destined to actualize the full extent
of their personal genius. So they have done their inner
work and are focused on achieving personal excellence. They
know that they are here for a life of meaning and action.
Leaders have the wisdom to understand that self-mastery comes
one day at a time. And the days slip into weeks. And
the weeks into months. And a time comes when those small,
daily improvements in their discipline levels have created extraordinary
results in life quality.
3 Lessons For Creating Self Discipline
1. Finish What You Start
As a trial lawyer with many competing demands on
my my time, it is essential that I, at all times, have the strength
of will to follow the daily plan I have set for myself and concentrate
only on those pursuits which are central to my mission.
To cultivate the kind of discipline required to be able to do
this, a philosophy that I apply in my own life is to finish what
I start. This simple practice is enormously effective because,
in practising it, you are no longer a slave to your weaker impulses
which silently prod you to take the path of least resistance and
quit before your goal is reached, no matter how small that goal
may be. Instead, you are in full control of your self and
use your inner power to accomplish worthy ends, whether this means
completing a hot new book on creativity, learning a new language
or growing a dynamic business.
2. Be Silent
As I discovered when researching my first book MegaLiving!,
the Buddhist monks have a favourite strategy to build willpower
- one that has been used by many cultures over the years to build
enormous amounts of inner-strength and resolve. It is the
vow of silence. You might wonder how would staying quiet
for days on end build willpower? It is because you are exerting
force on your will. You are not giving into the impulse telling
you to talk. You made a promise and set a goal that you
would be silent for a few hours or maybe even a full day and then
you had the courage to keep this promise. And this courage
and capacity quickly spills over into every other areas of your
life. Following through on this small goal builds your capacity
to follow through on larger goals like managing your time more
efficiently or building richer relationships or mastering your
physical endowments.
3. Get Up Early
Early rising is one of the key life habits of so
many of the highly successful people I have studied from Ted Turner
to Nelson Mandela. In my own life, I've now trained myself
to get up around 5 am since I have found that rising at this time
allows me the time I need to write peacefully and think deeply
Without a doubt, it's one of the best things I do for myself.
But I earned the rewards that I have received from getting up
early. I wasn't always an early riser. Yet, the more
I studied the lives of the people who were truly creating happier,
healthier and more meaningful lives than others, the more I realized
the value of getting up early. And the more I exercised
the power of my will and got up from a warm bed to do what I had
promised myself I would do, the stronger it became.
Above all else, however, the real key is to appreciate
that discipline in your outer world comes from a disciplined inner-world.
And a disciplined innerworld comes from thinking correct, inspiring,
disciplined and enlightened thoughts. Your thoughts form
your world. Life management begins with mind management.
And as you exercise your character power to build self-discipline,
meditate on these words of Emerson: "That which we
persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of
the thing has changed but that our ability to do has increased."